Is your resolution to start or return to therapy?
Perhaps your resolution is to start therapy, or maybe you need it after surviving 2017 + the holiday season. Finding a therapist can feel very overwhelming- you’ve gone through Psychology Today, talked to a few friends for referrals, etc. Now what?
Let’s take a look at a few tips for finding your therapist match...
Another subject to consider is what you want out of therapy. Now that you have found some therapists you’re confident in, now we can take a look at what to expect.
What should I expect?
Do I have to lay down on the couch? Not unless you want to, they tend to be comfy- and trust me we have all pretty much napped on those couches. Typically, sessions are done these days sitting face to face in an office setting.
Do I need to divulge everything on the first session? I’m nervous. You can go at your own comfort & speed. It’s completely normal to feel nervous, it can be helpful to explore these feelings on the first session. Many therapy styles these days are “client centered” which is a fancy way of saying that YOU are in the driver’s seat in control.
What if I think my therapist will judge me? Rest assured, therapy is no place for judgements. In reality, the more honest you are in sharing those more embarrassing moments/hard to vocalize thoughts & behaviors, the more productive therapy generally will be. Remember, it’s not our job to judge; it’s our job to support, help and guide towards self-realization. Chances are, we have heard it in some way shape or form before.
Do I need to go every week? Typically, therapy is a weekly process; however, some opt to come in every other week, while others may feel they want to be seen more than once a week. Some therapists may offer phone sessions or virtual sessions as well if the client is unable to attend regularly.
What can I expect from the process? You will most likely feel many things- there will be times where you leave the therapy room feeling as though you are 100lbs lighter, there will be other times that you may feel stuck and frustrated. Talk to your therapist about how you are feeling, it’s a help to both parties in the room. Just remember that therapy is not an overnight “quick-fix” process nor like refreshing day at the spa. Therapy is an emotionally committed process that may bring up feelings of discomfort, although therapy can also bring about feelings of being reassured, less alone and a place where you can learn what to do with all of your emotions. Therapy can an exciting, scary and ultimately empowering process for many.
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