Maybe it started out as just you, and then you met your significant other. There’s always the intro to the love story, the honeymoon and happy times. Then something bad happened. We often see in the Hollywood movies, something devastating happening to one partner and the other one, or perhaps the family, rallying around the sick person until the issue is fixed and everyone goes on happier than before. Sound familiar?
While life is never the movies, we often have expectations that when we fall ill, we will somehow have those we love the most rally around us. But what happens when we become ill with a disease that is not only not widely recognized, easily dismissed by the medical community and is chronic? The romanticism, empathy of others, well wishes, everything begins to dwindle off and we are left feeling lost, isolated and angry.
To say that Lyme disease changes your life is an understatement- Lyme changes everything from your own body, ability to work, to your own relationships.
When someone is diagnosed with an illness such as Lyme, it is impossible to for it to not change the dynamics of a relationship. It is no longer you and your partner, rather you, your partner and the Lyme. So how do we handle when this twosome becomes a burdensome uninvited threesome?
Everyone handles changes differently. I cannot emphasis enough the need to have a long talk with your SO (significant other). This talk will be tough, it will be raw, it will have to be honest. This talk needs to address what will be the new normal in your life and how both partners are going to handle this. There are different ways this can be done, and the end goal is this will be done together.
Alexis is an advocate for mental health wellness in the Lyme Disease community